The act of disappearing like a phantom is known as ghosting.
Ghosting is when a person suddenly ceases communication with someone out of nowhere, seemingly without warning or provocation. The opposite of love is not hate; it is indifference. Little did I know I have actually experienced it myself in the past! I was thrilled to have finally found some answers to why it made me feel so awful.
If you have been ghosted, remember you are not the cause of the other person’s actions or choices. The act of ignoring is seldom discussed as a psychological weapon though it is a mighty powerful one. It is powerful because it requires minimal action from its user and uses the mind of their victim to attack itself in a kamikaze fashion.
Ghosting is a way to avoid confrontations. It is a way to reject someone or cut ties without proper closure. The people who usually choose this method are generally emotionally immature or do not know how to deal with their feelings. It is an extremely hurtful betrayal. The disregard is insulting. The lack of closure is maddening. You are forced to move on but not before your self-esteem has taken a hit.
One of the most insidious aspects of ghosting is that it does not just cause you to question the validity of a close, loving relationship it causes you to question yourself. Why didn’t I see this coming? What did I do to create this?
After this kind of rejection, realize they do not respect you. It is passive aggressive. It is self-protective at the expense of other people’s feelings.
Do not allow there to be many loose ends or burnt bridges in life. The important thing to remember is when someone ghosts you, it says nothing about you or your worthiness for love and everything about the person doing the ghosting. Be the better person, retain your dignity, and let him or her go peacefully.
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills (IP)
Copyright © 2019
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.