Busy working on a new project. I will keep everyone posted.
Thank you for reading.
Remember to keep the circle, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
Busy working on a new project. I will keep everyone posted.
Thank you for reading.
Remember to keep the circle, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
Hi, it’s me again.
It is not even the end of 2017, and here I am writing yet again about soul-destroying grief. These last ten days, three deaths. Two so young they had more life in front of them than behind. One, not even what should be considered the half-way point in life.
These are people’s children. Only a parent understands the powerful bond you have with your child. The absolute undying love you have and the monumental desire that roars like an open fire inside you to protect that child at all costs. A parent will lay down their life for their child, but it is not until you have your own do you understand these strong, unyielding emotions.
On the surface, it appears our society is accepting of this unbearable sadness, death. However, in some situations, I have been surprised by some people’s genuine kindness and empathy as much as I have repeatedly been shocked and disappointed by their lack of it. A few weeks ago I had written an article called “There should be a Hierarchy of Grief” on JoyM.Mills Facebook Sunday Soul – Lutions.
The bottom line is people are uncomfortable with death and dying, period. Maybe they fear from knowing too much they may be obsessed with their loved ones dying or perhaps they beg and plead with God on a daily basis nothing touches them emotionally or breaks their heart much less anything that fractures their soul.
We have to be supportive and not try to fix it. If we don’t understand a person’s feelings, don’t say you do. Admit you can’t make it better. Recognize the loss. There is no time limit for grief. Don’t try to rationalize, explain or compare it to anything you have been through unless you truly understand, this minimizes a person’s loss, and it sucks!
So many people don’t say anything because they are afraid they will say the wrong thing. There is no right way except to say I am sorry. Distance is not good. If you think the grieving person hasn’t noticed you are slowly but surely pulling away; you are wrong. Stop oscillating, reach out.
To all of you reading this that have suffered unspeakable grief, I am sorry for your loss.
Remember to keep the circle, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
If I showed you my teardrops
Would you collect them like rain
Store them in jars that are
Labeled with “Pain”
Would you follow their tracks
From my eyes down my cheeks
As they write all of the stories
I am too scared to speak
Would you stop them with kisses
Bring their flow to a halt
As you teach me pain isn’t always
My fault
Would you hold my face gently
As you dry both my eyes
And whisper the words
You are too precious to cry
If I showed you my teardrops
Would you show me your own
And learn though we are lonely
We are never alone
We are the same
My soul honors your soul
I wish you enough sun
To keep your attitude bright
No matter how gray the day
May appear
I wish you peace
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
One of the most insidious and destructive forms of bullying is those closest to us when done in the name of love. I have learned there are ways to minimize the effects of relating to dysfunctional people. I would like to share them.
You change for two reasons: either you learn enough that you want to or you are hurting enough you have to.
Think of a traffic signal: first, you see a yellow light warning you to slow down preparing you to stop. Then you see a red light mandating you to stop. Perhaps you weren’t even paying attention, and the last thing you remember is the crash. You made a quick decision to ignore the warning, take the risk and forge your way through the intersection. One of our many life lessons, pay attention to the yellow lights.
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
Hi, it’s me again.
We have to carry the spirit of children as we grow old, which means we can’t lose our enthusiasm or get overwhelmed by it all.
There would be others that have come and gone in my life because of the way they were living their life. Good friends hold each other accountable. The reason being, life is not always a party. Anyone can be your friend when things are good. You find out what your friends bring to the table when austerity has got in the way. Friendship is not necessary, like philosophy, like art it has no survival value; instead, it has one of those things that give benefit to survival.
We win, or we lose. Almost only counts in horseshoes. You are not obligated to win. Your responsibility is to keep trying; to do the best you can do every day. I believe there is nothing in this life that can destroy you quicker than yourself (ego) or allowed into being bullied into submission. Bad things happen to everyone, but when they do, you can’t just give up and fall apart. It takes courage and bravery.
In our daily life, we seem to get lost in the business of schedules, and at times we look for the easiest way to complete something. Obstacles and the unknown are scary things. To love who you are you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.
If you are reading this, so far, you have survived 100% of the worst days of your life; this too shall pass. Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
CONVERSATIONS
People talk in circles
No frank discussions
So it seems
Keep it light
God forbid you speak
Of your hopes
Or dreams
Superficial conversations
Will bore you
In the end
Having the same
Conversation as
Before
It goes on
Again and again
The past is where
It belongs
Far behind you
And you have grown
More than you know
You either walk
With your head
Held high
Or you will stay
Stuck and never
Let it go
You are in the
Way of your
Happiness
You are in the
Way of the
Direction you should
Take
Be in or get out
There is no half-way
So no regrets
No long goodbyes
The past is gone
Just let it lie
It made you strong
You are who you are
Take the lessons
You can go far
There are no
Quick fixes or
Magic ways
The journey is
Your own
The longer we teeter
On that fence
The more paralyzed
We become
If you think you
Can’t
You definitely
Won’t
No one seems to
Understand and
That is what you
Go to sleep thinking
We are brought down
By fire and up
By faith
The caution signs
Are blinking
The road is not
Blocked so walk
Around
There is always
A way
You can start
Forgiving and letting
Go
That can start
Today…
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
Decide not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy and cheap praise. Whether you were saying hello to a new habit or a new way of life, you may also be saying goodbye to someone, something or the familiarity of who you were before.
Our journey should be an exciting quest, not a fearful one. Your fear will hold you back. When we go visit the beach and head into the ocean, actually we are entering into the home of the sharks. No matter how much time you spend in the water, is it statistically likely you will encounter a shark in a dangerous scenario? If you want to go for a swim, you have to take the risk, as small as it may be. We have to head into our future by remaining in the present.
By denying yourself the plethora of emotions and feelings, we as human beings forget happiness is a feeling, too.
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
Hi, it’s me again.
I was thinking about how life can force you to change even when naysayers state you can’t.
Along the way, you will encounter people out there whose attitude is my way or the highway. They only see conflict created by them as black or white. There are shades of gray. At different times in your life, you may be forced to deal with an ongoing conflict, and the people involved that are steadfast in trying to hold you hostage based on whom they believe you are.
What we have to remember is everybody else isn’t holding all of the cards all of the time. If you continually allow them to manipulate and not shut them down and walk away, you are going to be miserable, and misery does love company.
If you would pour as much positive energy into your life as you find yourself doing for others, happiness won’t elude you.
What you believe you become. You have to treat yourself better than the world has treated you. Stop anticipating trouble. Real life is challenging.
You have to be your hero. You won’t be asking yourself, who am I or where is my place amongst the craziness of so many mixed messages of the people around you.
For the longest time, I was made to believe you can’t and you won’t. I had no idea my life could go from uncomfortable to comfortable. We have to come to a point or crescendo where we can’t stand ourselves, the environment or the negative messages inflicted upon us by others. I decided I could, and I was going to undertake the painful work of getting real and begin the climb up. It is a process.
Start living your own story instead of somebody else’s.
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.
Many people believe their lives are caught up in the crossroads of emotional turmoil never to find any semblance of inner peace. It means you think you aren’t capable. You are stuck. Which way do you go?
We are all capable of change and doing better. Empowerment is the best part of peace. Enlightenment is the best part of knowledge. Don’t let your mind navigate you towards the dark side of your negative thoughts or allow others around you to convince you; you are the worst version of yourself than you could imagine. Lose the naysayers!
Life would show us the right path if we calmed down enough to see it. How do we find a way when all feels hopeless, and we feel we are on a slow descent to hell? What if for once, we realize to err is human. Things might get better if we only ask for help. Our very soul is at stake. Prayer is asking.
Only fools rush in. We are always pushing for something. We have to get finished. We have to hurry. When we rush things, we could very well disappoint ourselves and other people. You believe God isn’t listening. Perhaps you have to prove something to yourself, and that is why God is not rescuing you. It takes a leap of faith. Watch for the signs.
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017
*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.