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The Role of Free Will and Choice

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A fool does not care whether they understand or not.  If a person is driving you crazy, what are you learning?

 

Sin and shame go together.  Lose your honor, and you will get scorn in its place.  Don’t get caught in the trap of your words or judgments.  You have to live with the consequences of what you say, think or do.  We are supposed to preserve life, not destroy it.

 

When you create drama, you abandon your dreams.  If we got out of our way, we could see things in our lives for what they are.

 

Pain is a part of your experience, not something to run from to escape.  It teaches and helps us to evolve.  The only way through it is straight through it.

 

Ninety-five percent of your emotions determine how you interpret yourself.  The teacher is always quiet during the test.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#makeadifference

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

 

Food for Thought

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If you can’t be honest and tell people what you think, what is the point?  Being honest and having integrity are valuable assets.

 

Seek out people and a life that is in alignment with truth, love, integrity, and support.  Do not accept less. You have to love you enough to want to be happy with or without certain people in your life.   It won’t be as a result of you fixing anyone.   It will be a result of you working on yourself.

 

Drama is an external force that can sweep you away to a dark place.  If you can’t be honest and tell people what you think, what is the point?  Dramatic people causing upset are looking for anything to ease pain and prove they are okay.

 

When you can tell your story, and it doesn’t make you cry, know you have healed.

 

Be an observer, not a perpetrator.  It isn’t necessary to react to everything. Today lies new possibilities.  Today you decide the direction of your life.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#donotjudge

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

An Open Letter

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

If you invest in seeing the world with negative interpretations and if you look for selfishness, you will find it.  If you look for animosity, you will find it.

 

What we see is what we look for in situations and people.  The real question on any given day is why are you clinging to a negative story?  What is the payoff in holding on to someone else’s judgment?

 

You can never know for sure what motivates other people.  Becoming aware of the truth and working on expressing yourself more fully, taking an honest look at what you see and voicing what you truly think is how we are more likely to experience success.

 

If we as a human race could get inspired by other people’s victories instead of finding fault, we would find greater happiness and success; this is how we find peace.

 

When a person around you is judgmental, and you are passively quiet, aren’t you part of the problem and not part of the solution?  Hypocrisy is not attractive.  Can the blind lead the blind?

 

There are no excuses for judging other people.  When you do, you are condemning yourself.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#thinkforyourself

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

 

Food for Thought

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There is nothing better than a good person.  They can change your whole day.  They can change your entire life.

 

When you stop explaining yourself, you realize people only understand from their level of perception.  Close some doors.  Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance but simply because they no longer lead to somewhere.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#goodpeople

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

The Role of Free Will and Choice

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Beginnings are beautiful.  Starting something new offers excitement and opportunity for change, but often saying hello to the new means saying goodbye to what you knew.  If you are saying hello to a new relationship and you haven’t truly closed the door on an old one, then you miss honoring the very best parts of what came before.

 

Acknowledge the joy and the sorrow and you can bring your love and lessons into the new beginnings or be left with an insecure person something or someone else you just have to survive.

 

Share it with a friend or anyone you trust.  All of the emotions and the energy that surrounds your beginnings and endings are real.  It is important, and you can’t leave it out of your story.  The important thing is to know who you are from the inside out, right now!

 

Can you have a loving relationship without agreeing on everything?  If you learn to disagree without being disagreeable, that is wisdom.  If you learn to walk hand in hand without seeing eye to eye, that is wisdom.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#yourjourneycanbepeaceful

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

 

An Open Letter

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

I was thinking about insecure people and how they create self-fulfilling prophecies.  Individuals who are insecure will say, “come on in and join the circus.”

 

Insecurity is at the heart of many broken relationships.  Insecure people feel attacked even when no attack has happened.  They will be cold, judge and most of the time take the first strike all to protect themselves.  There comes the point when you have to walk away.

 

People will judge you, hurt you, put you down and try to break you.  Most often, this has nothing to do with you at all so remind yourself not to take it personally.  Hold the space.  In other words, set your boundary and take care of yourself.

 

Being in an uncertain relationship is difficult.  There is no need to rush in if the relationship is not worth fighting for except what is.  You don’t need to convince anyone.  You are not put here for anyone’s approval; none of us are.  You don’t need to convince anyone of your reasons, your directions or why you are telling some people to get out of your way.

 

It is okay not to be with them.  You have to change the way you look at it.  Again, set your boundaries and protect them fiercely.  Only you can teach people how to treat you.  They might not care at all, or they might not have any idea what they have done wrong.  After all, they are insecure, always finger pointing and placing blame.

 

Sometimes you have loved until you are worn out from it all and you have to love from a distance.  There will always be those whose love is unconditional. When they walk in, they don’t suck the oxygen out of the room.  They are the keepers.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#itisyourlifeliveit

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

 

An Open Letter

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Here is what I was thinking:

 

On any given day, if you are listening to people talk, their pain and misery are real.  You cannot in any way make anyone feel an emotion.

 

I have talked to people about this idea of is it truly an emotion or are you being challenged by something much deeper.  We are all self-centered by nature.  Finger pointing and blame always seem to be on the menu.

 

I can understand cause and effect.  I push the pencil, and it rolls.  I drop the vase, and it breaks.  Our responsibility to ourselves and God does.

 

We are creatures of habit.  Our ego is telling us something is missing in our lives, other people are to blame, and they repeatedly express contempt instead of forgiving and walking away.

 

We have to stop remaining behind a wall of resentment.  We have a hard time coming to terms with whatever is ending or beginning.

 

Honesty with ourselves is the key.  To heal a broken soul, you must confront the thing that caused it, face it and learn from it.  Not everyone is going to like you, and you don’t have to like them either.

 

Instead of getting mired down in it all, the best way to help yourself is to forgive, try to put it behind you, walk away and live well.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#checkyourself

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

 

The Role of Free Will and Choice

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Some of the biggest events in our lives, good or bad, allow us to draw insight and wisdom.  Be careful what you think or do.  Action and reaction always have consequences.

 

We all have the ability to turn our thoughts and deeds into something great and inspirational that is far more productive and meaningful to leave for future generations.

 

Change is never easy.  Sometimes you just have to accept that some people can only be in your heart and not in your life.  The point is if you are continuously proving your worth to someone else, they have already forgotten your value.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#karma

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

 

Food for Thought

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

People too often forget that it is your own choice how you want to spend the rest of your life.  Some people will only love you as long as you fit in their box.  Don’t be afraid to disappoint.

 

Be careful who you trust.  The devil once was an angel!

 

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Written with love.
#angels

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

Food for Thought

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

People may continue to hurt us despite our best efforts to get along with them.  They may never change.  When we learn to do what is best for ourselves without harming anyone else, we become wiser and more peaceful.

 

The impetus for change and healing is faith.  The antidote to fear is faith.  We might say this is a continuum.  Fear wrecks faith.  Faith saves us from fear.

 

Spend time with people who encourage you.  Regardless of all our careful planning, we may be unable to change certain situations despite all of our best efforts and intentions.  It is about accepting not expecting.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#unconditionallove

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016