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An Open Letter

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

Life asked death, why do people love me but hate you?  Death responded because you are a beautiful lie, and I the painful truth.

 

It can be painful to find yourself in a position where a relationship with close family members is untenable, this, too, is a loss.  You may end up feeling painfully lonely, and on good days there may be a feeling of overwhelming peace and freedom.

 

When you accept what has happened, you aren’t acknowledging it is okay but rather knowing there is a way to keep growing and living-even when you don’t feel like it.  Don’t let grief be your constant companion.  Realize your grief is born out of unconditional love and rejoice in that love which will never end.

 

Embracing life doesn’t mean you have stopped missing your loved ones, but an example love is eternal.  Eventually, time will cease to stand still.  Painful and terrible moments will still occur, striking poignant but comforting in that you will see them again.

 

You have to come to a place where you dry your tears.  It may take months; it may take years.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017

The Role of Free Will and Choice

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EXCUSES

 

The Future

Lies before you

Like a field of driven snow

Be careful how you tread it

For every step will show

 

I can excuse your behavior

I am wiser and older than you

My heart is in the right place

And my soul is balanced and true

 

I can excuse your behavior

You think I cannot see

Karma is an old ally

And will give back what you take from me

 

I can excuse your behavior

It isn’t a competition at all

What I know from my life-time

Is pride always cometh before the fall

 

I can excuse your behavior

Others will too

In case you don’t know

 

God is the judge

Not us

I will not break

I will bend

I can excuse your behavior

And to think we could have been friends

 

Your heart was destroyed

Before I met you

Forgiveness you tout like

A drug

I wonder when life comes back at you

If you will be able to climb

Out of the hole you dug

 

You never know whom you

Might need

You have worked hard

And planted terrible seeds

 

I can excuse your behavior

What I know for sure

You won’t answer to me…

 

Excerpts taken from new book
All The Moving Parts:
A Mini Memoir of Instincts and Survival
Due out in 2017
Copyright © Joy M. Mills

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017

Food for Thought

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Six letters, two words, easy to say and harder to do:  move on.

 

Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come.  Remember everything you have faced, all of the battles you have won and everything you have been forced to overcome.

 

What we want most is peace in our minds and our hearts.  That is what nourishes our soul.  You own everything that happened to you.  Tell your stories.  If people wanted you to write about them, they should have behaved better.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017

An Open Letter

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

How do we find our way when all seems hopeless, and we feel we are in a slow descent to hell?  Seek the lesson at the moment.  Relationships are complicated and often confusing.  Each of us has unique and different needs.

 

Do you feel you have mastered all the wrong lessons at various points in your life?  It will take trial and error to find balance.  For example, not asking for exactly what we want.  We don’t say what we mean.  We avoid telling the truth so as not to upset other people.  We wait too long to express what we are thinking.  We look back at these situations and realize we were rushed to complete what we were working on or toward just to fail.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.

 

We lose our way only to find a deeper meaning.  Maybe this is what heals us, facing pain and finding blessings all mixed up in it.

 

With age comes wisdom and there is no way to turn back.  Just stand there for a moment and refocus, then we can find the place that is our truth.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2017

An Open Letter

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

Strength isn’t about bearing a cross of grief or shame.  It is about choosing our path and living with the consequences of our choices and then learning from them.  Sometimes you have done your very best, and it still ends up a mess.

 

Don’t be discouraged.  At least you tried.  You found the courage to try.  That is all we can ever really do.  So, regroup and begin again with what you know now.  Life is all about taking chances which could mean making a life change, and that is always scary.  What is scarier to me is living with regret.

 

Most fears are bigger in your mind than in reality.  You will see this for yourself as soon as you face them.  Don’t let fear stop you.  Live your life so you will never have to regret.

 

Hold tight to the good things.  Life is simple.  Everything happens for you, not to you.  God is never a minute late or a minute early.  He is always on time.

 

Positive things happen in your life when you emotionally distance yourself from the negative.  So, stop holding on to what hurts and make room for the good stuff.

 

When you can’t think of a reason to continue, think of a reason to start over.  There is a big difference between giving up and starting over in the right direction.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#yourlifeyourchoice

 

© Soul – Lutions September 23, 2015

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

Food for Thought

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We need water, the scent of water in this parched and arid time.  We all need to strive for a balance that can provide a continuum for moving, propelling us ever forward – our growth.  And yet, we forget to pray and be thankful.

 

I know for some, your patience is wearing thin, and the silence is deafening.  The only sound in the room you can hear is your heartbeat.  At times, no answer is the blessing.  We just don’t know it.

 

We pray when it is necessary and convenient asking for so many answers and believe God is not listening.   He hears.  Sometimes it is only a whisper.  Perhaps the direction we want to go is not where we need to be.  Stand in our truth and have faith without flinching.

 

Trust the process.  Believe in the power of prayer!

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#faithandprayer

 

Copyright © Joy M. Mills
Excerpts taken from:
Between Heaven and Earth
The Soul Purpose:  Alone at the Crossroads
Copyright © 1998 by J. Mills
Between Heaven and Earth
The Soul Purpose:  Am I Good Enough
Copyright © 2012 by J. Mills

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

The Role of Free Will and Choice

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Appreciate life as it happens.  It is a journey.

 

Reflect on the positive blessings and the impact people have made on your life.

 

What death teaches you is to take action on those things you put on hold for a long time.  Decide not to wait any longer on fulfilling your God -given purpose.

 

There is inner work to be done for all of us.  We must find flexibility to bend to life.  You know what works for you and what doesn’t – when you quiet down enough and stop second-guessing.  There are no one-size fits all solutions to problems.  If you believe this, you are more likely to feel exhausted than inspired.

 

God always knows the path of your journey and destination.  To heal a broken soul, you must first confront the thing that caused it.  Sometimes it is just to share our experience with someone else who may be hurting to give them hope.  We are all brought down by fire at one point in our life or another.  It is our faith that keeps us going when we feel we can’t any longer.

 

If, but for awhile, the harder you try the harder it gets, take heart.  So it has been with the best people who have ever lived.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
Dignity

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

The Role of Free Will and Choice

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It only takes one cloud to block the light of the sun.

 

What I have realized is we need to take a step back.  Not everyone can be in the front row.  Life is a theater so invite your audience carefully.  There may be a wonderful story in every soul you come across.

 

A friend is one to whom one can pour out all of the contents of our heart, chaff, and grain together.  Knowing the gentleness of hand will take and sift it.  Keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#wordshurt

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

 

Food for Thought

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Our expectations often make us utterly unhappy.  Happy people don’t:

 

  1. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. They take responsibility for their role and understand life isn’t always easy or fair.

 

  1. Don’t give away power. You are in control of your emotions and have a choice in how you respond.

 

  1. Don’t feel the world owes anything. It is much harder to change the length of your life than the depth of it.

 

  1. Don’t feel it is too late to start over. Emotionally strong people genuinely appreciate and celebrate other people’s successes.

 

  1. Don’t get impatient and settle. Be patient and keep working.

 

  1. Don’t make the same mistake over and over again. The second time you make it, it is no longer a mistake but a choice.

 

  1. Don’t hang onto every word other people say about you. You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you.  You can change how you react and who you want to be around.

 

  1. Don’t believe everyone is out to hurt or destroy. Everyone intends to get to heaven, but nobody is willing to die.  We have no way to know what lies over the next horizon.

 

  1. Don’t live in another time and place. The past is gone, and the future doesn’t exist.  They live for now.

 

  1. Don’t try to be someone different. Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself.  The right people will love you.

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#decidetobehappy

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016

An Open Letter

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Hi, it’s me again.

 

When is the right time to turn off life support?  There is a difference between fighting with each other and fighting against each other.  A house divided cannot stand.

 

When you are unhappy and disconnected and thinking about pulling the plug, you are not alone.  There are a lot of people out there who are fed up, washed up and feel depleted; this is not living.

 

Who do you trust?  First, take a deep breath and trust yourself.  Second, consider what you want.  It sounds crazy but how many people in relationships are in power struggles, feel disrespected and unloved?

 

Quit fighting to make people see the real you.  Some don’t want to and some simply won’t or can’t.

 

Life, time and energy are precious.  Don’t waste it anymore on defending who you are.  You can’t create seers out of the blind.  Criticize away because it is probably not the real me you see and whose fault is that?

 

Don’t base your self-worth on the way things are going with current people in your life.  Don’t spend time reflecting on the way so many people have hurt or tried to break you in the past.  It takes soul- searching and understanding your reality.  Nobody knows that better than you.

 

You are good enough, and you deserve the best!

 

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

 

Written with love.
#truth

 

Joy M. Mills
Copyright © 2016