The Role of Free Will and Choice

One of the joys of being human is we do not have to be perfect to be one of the good ones. As a parent, the word estrangement was not in my vocabulary before it happened to me four years ago. And like many parents, I was ashamed and reluctant to talk about it. I […]

Food for Thought

The act of disappearing like a phantom is known as ghosting.   Ghosting is when a person suddenly ceases communication with someone out of nowhere, seemingly without warning or provocation. The opposite of love is not hate; it is indifference. Little did I know I have actually experienced it myself in the past! I was […]

An Open Letter

My philosophy is I have more faith than fear. I choose to be grateful. I take responsibility for my happiness. I am not a victim. I do not replay hardships of my past over and over. I have learned to save myself from myself. I chose to stop listening to doubt. I own my mistakes […]

Food for Thought

Be willing, not perfect. You have to decide how you will deal with a crazy situation before you get into it because when you are dealing with an emergency or making a decision on the fly, your immediate needs and fears typically cause you to make choices you would not have made if you were […]

The Role of Free Will and Choice

There is a difference between giving up and knowing you have had enough.   If you are not one of those beautiful people in the world, then to some people you mean nothing. You seek people who express themselves by wearing darker clothes, too much makeup or piercings we do not understand. We judge them. […]

An Open Letter

If I were writing a letter and I am supposed to be loving me first, should not the letter be addressed as “It is me?” I would address the letter as, “Joy, wake up. How have you been?”   I have been on quite a journey these past two weeks. I hugged my knees, cried […]

Food for Thought

I hate every cliché about forgiveness. Forgiveness is a vast untraversable land for those of us that crave justice. The very thought of letting someone walk away scot free makes me sick.   I can see all of your faces the moment I say I am writing about how to forgive someone who never gave […]

The Role of Free Will and Choice

  You are at a point on your journey, and the way you think things should be gets derailed. This sudden transformation is difficult to process. You feel shocked, scared and concerned or uncertain. When someone you love falls ill, gets into an accident or receives a scary health diagnosis, it is never easy. It […]

An Open Letter

Life is a toilet, but technically we are the ones who fill it, and thus, we are full of it as well. The toilet is not a place of residence. You get to leave the toilet when you are finished, unlike real life when you do not know when it will be over. Breaking the […]

Food for Thought

Once again, we have to mourn for the victims of another senseless shooting. When will this stop? I am not chicken little or here comes the apocalypse kind of person. I can only imagine anyone that has had their life touched by these mass shootings, directly or indirectly, may feel the apocalypse happened. However, I […]