Every single day of the year, we are being sold happiness. It does not matter whether it is in the form of a pill, book or holiday. The underlying idea is the same. The problem with happiness is no one knows what it is. It is intangible, even a little mysterious. Trying to be […]
An Open Letter
Here we are in a new year and a new decade, and I was thinking of the people that defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact they have around others. They just create chaos. Difficult people are drawn to the reasonable ones. All of us likely have had or have at […]
An Open Letter
As I am coming up on the third lap around the sun of the death of my mother, I find myself reflective and grateful to have witnessed the humble, elegant, peaceful passing of my 89-year-old mother. Who knew I would be given so many gifts from one very painful death. On the final day […]
An Open Letter
The unhappiest people in the world are the people who care too much what others think. We do not need to please anyone but ourselves. A simple rule everyone can understand, if we try to impress at any cost, we are disguising ourselves. If we disguise ourselves, our essence dies. No one deserves to […]
An Open Letter
No one could have anticipated the veracity of Hurricane Dorian and its cruel, angry decent on the Bahamas. They have gone through countless hurricanes, and on the eve of Dorian, they knew the drill. Board up your home, secure your belongings, and stock up on food, water, non-perishable items and snacks. However, no one could […]
An Open Letter
Childhood gifted me with a number of unhealthy survival mechanisms which still follow me around today: a deep fear of conflict because for me conflict meant someone would leave. Constant apologies and guilt I am not responsible for and a voice in the back of my mind telling me no matter what I do, who […]
Food for Thought
I used to be a nice person; I would always put others before myself and appease those around me. I would volunteer to do the bulk of the work for various projects. I backed down from my requests if it inconvenienced anyone. It left me exhausted. If you are always giving, people will expect […]
The Role of Free Will and Choice
Last week, someone told me a story of their adult child bullying, infighting and cursing them out. They were heartbroken. When did that kind of disrespect become okay? It will suck the life out of you. Stop giving it attention. If it were a job, you would need to quit. If it is a person, […]
An Open Letter
I am going to be honest with you. For a long season in my life, it felt like I was going through the motions trying to get through the next day. Because of that, I was not able to enjoy what was right in front of me. At other times, I carried an abysmal pit […]
The Role of Free Will and Choice
One of the joys of being human is we do not have to be perfect to be one of the good ones. As a parent, the word estrangement was not in my vocabulary before it happened to me four years ago. And like many parents, I was ashamed and reluctant to talk about it. I […]