Hi, it’s me again.
I was thinking about insecure people and how they create self-fulfilling prophecies. Individuals who are insecure will say, “come on in and join the circus.”
Insecurity is at the heart of many broken relationships. Insecure people feel attacked even when no attack has happened. They will be cold, judge and most of the time take the first strike all to protect themselves. There comes the point when you have to walk away.
People will judge you, hurt you, put you down and try to break you. Most often, this has nothing to do with you at all so remind yourself not to take it personally. Hold the space. In other words, set your boundary and take care of yourself.
Being in an uncertain relationship is difficult. There is no need to rush in if the relationship is not worth fighting for except what is. You don’t need to convince anyone. You are not put here for anyone’s approval; none of us are. You don’t need to convince anyone of your reasons, your directions or why you are telling some people to get out of your way.
It is okay not to be with them. You have to change the way you look at it. Again, set your boundaries and protect them fiercely. Only you can teach people how to treat you. They might not care at all, or they might not have any idea what they have done wrong. After all, they are insecure, always finger pointing and placing blame.
Sometimes you have loved until you are worn out from it all and you have to love from a distance. There will always be those whose love is unconditional. When they walk in, they don’t suck the oxygen out of the room. They are the keepers.
Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©
Written with love.
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Joy M. Mills
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