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Practice Forgiveness

Practice Forgiveness

Soul – Lutions

Here is what I was thinking:


Harsh lessons are the worst – the real eye openers.


We all make mistakes, they happen… Do we choose to correct them? A very dear friend of mine felt betrayed by a friend of hers. She chose not to end the friendship but decided to make her pay for it over and over again through subtle digs and less subtle slights.


She repeatedly expressed contempt for her instead of forgiving and walking away. She remained behind a wall of resentment. Soon the friend started responding in kind until their friendship became a container for mutual silent bitterness.


It was two people sharing a suffocating space overwhelmed by the weight of what they didn’t say. Everyone in the room knew when they were together the oxygen would be sucked out of the air.


All of us can relate to the feeling of clinging to a grievance when we felt angry or indignant. Holding onto anger, nurturing it until it grows up and goes to college is not wise.


You don’t have control over what somebody else does. What you have is control over yourself and the way you respond to it. There is a choice. Don’t bathe in nuclear waste! It is toxic.


Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself. Say what you mean and mean what you say. The easiest way to change a situation is to change your actions… Rise above it, bless it, release it and let them go.


Keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©


Written with love.


Joy M. Mills ©



Disclaimer: This article is not intended to address those with clinical depression or other mental illnesses.