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Direction of Your Life

We Need to Learn To Set Boundaries

Here is what I was thinking:

Today you decide the direction of your life.


This is a lesson I learned long ago: anything you resist persists. Be an observer not a perpetrator. It isn’t necessary to react to everything. If someone repeatedly comes to you with catastrophes, give yourself a window of time. Be willing to listen and then take care of your own needs. Sometimes we have to walk away. Resist the urge to jump into the pity party. Kleenex are not free and you won’t be “either” if you continue to take on other people’s issues all of the time.


Maybe we should all take an inventory of which people in our lives leave us feeling stressed and unhappy. Realistically, we can’t completely remove all toxic relationships. Here is a thought, change how often you want to spend time together a.k.a. recognize the drama triggers. It is similar to a tornado coming. When you hear the sirens, you are supposed to go to safety. In other words, minimize your time. Steer the conversation somewhere else. If that is not possible, then it really is time to find the nearest exit or shelter. There is peace in the basement.


We need to learn to set boundaries. We need to say no more often and take better care of ourselves…


Keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©


Written with love.

#minimizethedrama #safety


Joy M. Mills ©


Disclaimer: This article is not intended to address those with clinical depression or other mental illnesses.