An Open Letter

Hi, it’s me again.

I heard something said about another person a little over a month ago at an event. A woman who is known for stirring up drama, prompted by someone else or not, passed judgment. There is nothing humorous about her behavior. We all know one of these. Her snarky statement had been overheard and repeated, which is another blog. I began to think what another must have said to make her believe it was okay to make such a politically incorrect joke assigning herself as judge, jury and executioner. Was it jealousy or insecurity? 

The act of judgment is an act of pride. It involves looking at our store of knowledge putting together a few facts. All too often it is the wrong solution or answer and ends in hurting someone else. For all this woman has, it makes me sad she has to stoop to such low levels to get attention. 

Everything needed to break unhappy cycles are within you. Making judgments behind someone’s back is just as bad as saying it to their face. When you make snarky, ugly comments and a person overhears it; you are rude. It speaks volumes about you as a person, not the other person at all.

Bad comments do not determine a person’s worth. If you overhear it, do not encourage it, walk away.

When people are scared and feel insecure, they try to feel better by putting other people down. I would love to sit here and write I am a perfect, open and a loving person and that I have never judged someone. That is not the case. I hate that I have to admit it. We all need to work on it. Willfully hurting others and causing trouble is wrong. It is bullying without having the nerve to say it to someone’s face.

In the last decade I have become more comfortable with who I am; therefore, I do not participate in these antics. I have learned to leave the room. We all have to be self-assured enough not to cast a downward glance at others. 

Judgment is something we do without thinking. If it does not belong to you, leave it where it is. It is not your house so stop cleaning it. 

Destiny determines who enters your life, but you decide who stays. The truth hurts only once. A lie, every time you remember it. We are in a world spiraling out of control. What we do not consider is judgment day is coming for all of us.

My prayer is that our behavior is not the impetus for something horrific happening. We came into the world alone, we are leaving alone and will answer for everything we have or have not done. The choices are yours.

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

Written with love.

#stopjudging #nodrama #alittlekindnessgoesalongway #stopcomplaining #donotrepeat #godhelpusall #shameonyou

Joy M. Mills (IP)

Copyright © 2018


*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to address those with clinical depression or other mental illnesses.