An Open Letter

Hi, it’s me again.

Most people intuitively know when it is time to cut ties. Sadly, we may have carried this knowledge for a long time before we are ever ready to make the jump.

In just a few words, family defines us. Families can be the ones that drive you nuts. Is there a fair trade? Do you have to take the good with the bad? Just because you were born into chaos, does that mean you have to remain there stuck?

The key ingredients in a healthy relationship are acceptance, love, the ability to agree or disagree and mutual respect without having to change or control each other.

Sometimes you may need to cut some family out of your life whether momentarily or permanently. Keeping an open space for them and continuing to make an effort to reach out is emotionally exhausting. 

Short-term ease equals long-term pain for you if you do not recognize situations for what they are. It is up to you to act. Keep things intact if you can but do not be afraid to let go and do things for you if you must.

Learn to accept and value you. No one else’s judgement should be the inner voice in your head creating thoughts of ridicule or self-doubt. All details to the side, this is your life. You may not be able to control all things toxic to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them in the long run. Do not be fooled.

Remember to keep the circle positive, peaceful and loving. ©

Written with love.

#stop #think #act #family #happiness #peace #selfcare #control #dontbefooled

Joy M. Mills (IP)

Copyright © 2018


*This article is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal or other professional advice. This article was written to support, not replace medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you feel you have a condition.

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to address those with clinical depression or other mental illnesses.